Dallas Public Library

A book about love, Jonah Lehrer

eng

Includes bibliographical references (pages 261-288)

no index present

non fiction

A book about love

bibliography

928481046

Jonah Lehrer

Weaving together scientific studies from clinical psychologists, longitudinal studies of health and happiness, historical accounts and literary depictions, child-rearing manuals, and the language of online dating sites, Jonah Lehrer's A Book About Love plumbs the most mysterious, most formative, most important impulse governing our lives. Love confuses and compels us--and it can destroy and define us. It has inspired our greatest poetry, defined our societies and our beliefs, and governs our biology. From the way infants attach to their parents, to the way we fall in love with another person, to the way some find a love for God or their pets, to the way we remember and mourn love after it ends, this book focuses on research that attempts, even in glancing ways, to deal with the long-term and the everyday. The most dangerous myth of love is that it's easy, that we fall into the feeling and then the feeling takes care of itself. While we can easily measure the dopamine that causes the initial feelings of "falling" in love, the partnerships and devotions that last decades or longer remain a mystery. This book is about that mystery. Love, Lehrer argues, is not built solely on overwhelming passion, but, fascinatingly, on a set of skills to be cultivated over a lifetime

Introduction: Habituation -- Attachment. Interlude: Limerence -- The Abraham Principle -- The marriage plot. Interlude: Divorce -- Moments of grace. Interlude: Love lost -- On memory. Interlude: The opposite of love -- Going on. Coda: Scarcity